What is my destiny?
I ask myself this all the time......
I have known since I was four years old, exactly what I wanted to do with my life - and I had this idea that since I knew what I wanted, knew where I was going, and knew how I was going to get there - I WAS SET!
I'd go to college, get a job in my industry, gain a few years of experience, and then branch out on my own - starting my own business, garnering success within 2-5 years and retiring by 30! Along the way, I would have met my prince charming, swept him of his feet with my charm, beauty, and success - we would have dated, married, and traveled the world together before settling down to reproduce. Again, all this before I was thirty - because in my mind - I want to (and still do) be a stay at home mom for my children.
Reality of My Life:
I'm 27 - single, living at home with my parents, working in an industry that I did NOT go to school for. Yes, I did attend college and then I graduated 2 months before the economy dropped.
Unemployed - Intern - Full time Employee - Back to unemployed - Potential Graduate School student (accepted but didn't attend) - Back to Full-Time Employee (and now writing a blog)
My journey has been NOTHING like what I dreamed or planned.
BUT I WOULDN'T CHANGE IT FOR ANYTHING IN THE WORLD
Because I'm happy! (in my best Pharell voice)
Something's that I discovered in the past two years:
-It's ok to not have the answers but have so many questions
-It's ok to not have an elaborate plan on how to get to my journey's end
-It's ok to take life one day at a time
In the past two years, I have realized that more than anything in the world, I just want to be happy! So, I took a year (2013) and did everything that I LOVE to do!
I traveled (nationally and internationally) - I went to concerts - I rented cars ( I LOVE CARS!) - and I ATE ( I LOVE FOOD!) - and most importantly, I surrounded myself with FAMILY & FRIENDS!!! See pics below!
The happiest year of my life! And at the end of 2013, I realized my destiny is not to be the "Uber Successful Boniface" rather it's to live and enjoy life on a daily basis and along the way accomplish my goals and live out my dreams.
We all have these dreams that turn into goals and give us a sense of purpose. and those are GREAT. They are needed. I'm a planner by nature - I set deadlines, and dates. I have Plan A so meticulously set that there is rarely ever a need for Plan B.
BUT life has shown me that it can seriously BOTCH any Plan you have - no matter how detailed you are.
So rather than stressing and losing your sense of purpose for what may seem like a missed deadline, or lost opportunity, or forgotten dream - know that the deadline CAN BE pushed back - the opportunity WILL present itself again, and the dream is NEVER forgotten.
In the meantime - LIVE LIFE! And make new discoveries and dreams along the way.
Trust, I will still be the owner of a vast Hospitality Conglomerate but until then, I will incorporate my love for hospitality and service in my daily life on the level I'm at now - and my next step is this blog!
This blog will show you (and me) how to discover happiness EVERYDAY!! In both the small and the big, there is so much to enjoy in life on a daily basis - and my heart is so happy that we are going on this ride!
So here's to our journey .....discovering our destiny's together.
See ya next Sunday!
5/4/2014 11:34:04 pm
Very proud of you. Will definitely be checking in. Congrats!
5/5/2014 01:13:53 am
Love it!! Congratulations one more time!!! Can't wait for next week:)
5/5/2014 01:22:40 am
Deeessss! This is so dope! Optimism at it's best. Your outlook on life correlates with my personal morals and values. .......... "The only way out, is the way through"
5/5/2014 03:22:36 am
LOVE THIS DES! Something like this takes a life to whole different level being able to except the goods and the bad and being able to express them to the world amazing! I hope that you move many others with this showing them that everyone don't have to/isn't perfect and that things wont go as according to planned but there are ways to recover!
5/5/2014 01:29:49 pm
"We tend to seek happiness when happiness is actually a choice." Keep choosing happiness, Dess! Love the blog! So proud of you!! :)
5/5/2014 11:59:50 pm
I love it!! And Ithaca is the first pic too!! :) :)
5/6/2014 01:04:13 am
Sweety I'm so proud of you! :) Being happy and satisfied with who you are is only the beginning of the journey! Destinee you are sharp, bright and relentless. There is more blessings in store for you! And all those that love and support you will definitely come along for the ride! :)
5/6/2014 06:10:32 am
Proud of you friend, is funny how life throws curve balls at your bat. I like how honest this post is. Congrats on overcoming your fears.
5/10/2014 04:46:27 am
This is refreshing Destinee!!! I have read it twice already and I am willing to bet I will read it again :-). I love the "three it's okays" you learned in the last 2 years and I am even more impressed that you took the time to travel and see new things. I look forward to reading more from you and learning even more :-)
5/13/2014 02:10:55 am
Love Love Love this. Happiness is Key! xo
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